Everything starts with one word , “Comfort Zone”
Most of us who are in the mid twenties have a hard time dealing with the so called quarter life crisis. It sounds like a seriously sophisticated issue that needs to be dealt cautiously but
Can i tell you that its not as complicated and scary as it sounds .
What exactly is the so called comfort zone ?
Let’s see , We all have certain things we are good at and certain things we are terrible at to the extent where one would tremble at the thought of even trying. The first case here is the things we are good at , well they are right at the center of our comfort zone or in a simple way in our pocket whenever we need them.
Coming, to the second part, things we are terrible at . Most of the time we feel that these things are beyond our reach as a result it ends up becoming a Herculean task to get the job done. Hence , we become oblivious of slightest importance that they carry in our day to day lives. This right here is where the comfort zone ends.
Comfort zone basically is the limit or reach of one’s passion to complete a task willfully without any extra effort, persuasion and compromise.
How does comfort zone effect our lives ?
In the current super fast paced lifestyle, it’s pretty hard to even take a short break and catch some breath leisurely. All of our daily lives come down to one simple phrase called
“Priorities”
It’s a confusing word, isn’t it ?
It seems pretty simple at the first glance but it’s got a deep spiritual connection to one’s life.
Our life runs pretty much on the priorities that we set for ourselves and this in turns effects us emotionally & psychologically. The priorities we set for ourselves are deeply connected to the comfort zone we live in. Each and every decision is the result of the variables : priorities , comfort zone & habits, these three are pretty much interlinked and will effect each other if not balanced.
All of us have our life balance by two acts :
- Professional / Corporate Act.
- Personal Act.
The only part where we concentrate on the comfort zone is the professional part because any disturbance caused in the corporate is evident right on the surface and it effects you immediately whereas in the personal part of our life our loved ones make sure that the disturbances caused by the comfort zone don’t surface right away and effect our lives.
Life beyond the boundaries of the comfort zone ?
Corporate Act :
First of all , when things are in order none of us are bothered by the boundaries of our comfort zone. It’s when things don’t work out , that the cracks start showing up. There are different ways to know the reach of your comfort zone and the most simple of it is by trying to do a certain task that one is not comfortable with or a task that one is not used to.
When we stay rigid and reluctant to try something new, we tend to become a bit obnoxious and intrusive for everyone around us especially when it would help you become a better person. We tend to miss our deadlines, become inefficient and lethargic because of making a choice to not to do it and pile things up. With time the priorities & habits change leading to a ripple effect in every sector of one’s life.
Personal Act :
This is where the chaos happens or rather the magic happens , Good for us that the ripple effect in our personal lives are much livelier that can be held in control. Most of our personal and professional lives run around the relationships surrounding them which are dictated by the emotions that each of our relationships put us through.
Most of our relationships in life have given us wounds that only time can heal, but most importantly they have taken us through a roller coaster ride of emotions that can give us light even in the darkest phases of life. Whether it be by choice or a forced ending of a relationship that we have been though, there is only one question that would haunt us till death and that would be :
Why am i clingy ?
Everyone of us have gone through that phase and its takes a punch right to the gut to get out of it, and yet the question stays unanswered all this while.
For ,starters we were never true to ourselves about the part of moving from a tough loss, especially when someone breaks your trust (the most essential part of a relationship). We have only lied to ourselves that we have moved on but in fact we haven’t because we have become quite adept a putting up a facade. When we are with someone, it becomes a habit of them being around us all the time and a sense of security is developed with the big boost in our comfort zone due to the fact that our mind is coaxed into believing that this particular person has become an essential part of our lives which is irreplaceable.
They become a quintessential part of our life to the extent where they start making a void that can never be filled, Their memories are etched in our hearts and define our lives in simple ways from their presence lingering in the way we smile to the way we think, feel & the way we love and trust people.
Life is never fair, Deal with it .
Take a deep breath & remember that every thing in our lives revolve around the choices we make, things don’t work out all the time and we need to accept the fact we’ve relied on someone too much and that it has to stop. Because , we are giving someone the power to control our life by throwing away the trust and respect you have for yourself.
The main reason we do all of this is to mask our insecurity of not being accepted by the world as who we are.
The comfort zone that we have made in our lives is effected by the choices we make and the habits that define us to effect the priorities we put forth leading to our emotions controlling the outcomes of our actions rather than the hard work we put behind them.
In short, comfort zones dictate the lives we lead and they are defined by the insecurities that control the boundaries of our achievements.
Please pardon me for the lengthy and messy write up, any suggestions are welcomed.
Victor.
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